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Buddy Straps

Gwen Smith

Today’s Truth

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT)

Friend To Friend

Every family has one… that certain individual who gets injured and banged up more than their fair share. That person who spends the majority of your family’s health care budget on their co-pay needs because, for whatever reason, accidents mysteriously, regularly and relentlessly hunt them down and throw a good bit of hurt on them. In our family, this person is my teenaged son, Preston.

We’ve been up, down and all around when it comes to Preston’s breaks, bandages and bruises. So it was a bit old-hat to be sitting in a small examining room last winter, waiting to see the doctor about yet another injury. This one happened in gym class at school. Preston climbed up a rope, made it to the top, and then had the bright idea of letting go of the rope instead of scaling down safely. Brilliant. He broke his big toe… in the middle of basketball season.

The doctor looked over the x-rays and, in spite of the break, had good news for us: Preston only had a hairline fracture in his toe. It would heal quickly. He would be immobilized in a funky shoe for a week or two, and then he would be able to get back to playing basketball as soon as the pain subsided.

As we prepped to leave, the doctor instructed Preston that once he was able to put weight on his foot, he would need to use a “buddy strap.” The strap would hold his broken toe snugly to the healthy toe right beside it for support. A nurse then handed my son a few black Velcro strips and explained that he should wear them to play basketball as soon as his pain was manageable. The support of the buddy straps would help him get back in the game quickly.

My eyebrows raised and my mind reeled as I pondered the similarities between buddy straps and friendships. There are a million times when my heart or circumstances are fractured. Each wound and challenge threatens to keep me immobilized both emotionally and spiritually. In those times, it always benefits me to first seek refuge in the stable arms of God and to then buddy-strap my heart to a few godly girlfriends. As the psalmist cried out, so I cry out:

For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken (Psalm 62:5-6, ESV).

Then, after seeking God, as I ready myself to put one foot in front of another, my girlfriends rally as my buddy straps and provide prayer support, wisdom and encouragement. When one friend is weak because of life-fractures, it is a blessing for a strong and healthy friend to come along side to help her.

We need each other as Christian women. That’s what Girlfriends in God is all about: women encouraging other women in faith and in life. When Sharon, Mary and I co-founded GiG, it was purposed to spur you toward the heart of God through devotions and conferences. In real life, we are buddy straps for each other. Our lives are filled with as many life-fractures as the next person… so we often rally to speak words of encouragement, truth and hope to one another. At times, we even speak correction. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17).

Where does this find you today? Do you have some life-fractures and challenges? Are you the buddy strap to any of your friends who are struggling? Perhaps you’ve got both going on. If so, then praise God. Praise Him for trials – which can grow you in perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5:4) and for His provision of friends in your life that love you, challenge you and cheer you on through the hard times. And praise Him for the opportunity to be a buddy strap in return.

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NLT).

Let’s Pray

Dear Lord, Thank You for giving me access to Your grace and strength through Your Son, Jesus Christ. You are my Strong Tower, my Refuge, my Shelter, my Help and my Hope. I am so grateful that when my days are filled with hurt and struggles that You are right beside me – and that You have blessed me with some buddy straps. Please help me encourage my friends toward your grace, hope and truth today.

In Jesus’ name, amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

Who are you a buddy strap to? Are you sensitive to the needs around you or do you not “have the time” to worry about other people’s problems?

Think of three girlfriends in your life who have been your buddy straps, then pause to pray for each of them. Bless them today. Send a card or an email. Forward this devotion to them! Text them or post on their wall. Connect to say thanks.

Got a great buddy strap story? I’d love to hear about it! Swing by my blog or my facebook page today and leave a comment or a prayer request.

More From The Girlfriends

I love my girlfriends. They are total wild flowers in the bouquet of my life. When my children were young, Brad and I moved several times in just a few years. That made it hard for me to connect with other women. If you find yourself in a place where you need some women friends, I encourage you to contact the Women’s Ministry Director at your church and let her know your need. Sharon, Mary and I truly love doing life with you and are blessed to encourage you through these devotions and at the conferences where we speak. We’d love to meet you and hug your neck in person! Check our website to see when one of the GiGs might be coming to an event near you.

Girlfriend! Come celebrate and get free music! Gwen has a brand NEW website filled with videos, posts, songs and resources that we believe will be a deep well of encouragement to you. Please swing by to visit: (Get a free song download when you sign up for her newsletter!)

6 Responses

  1. Crystal says:

    I know without my “buddy straps”, I would completely fall apart! I am so blessed by them!! One in particular has been my friend since 3rd grade! They lift me up in prayer and I love them because of so many things they do to encourage me. It isn’t always easy for me to trust and make close friends because of moving several times throughout our marriage of almost 29 years. I’ve learned to be a buddy strap to many a friend and been blessed because of it! Praising God in all circumstances is not easy, but I’m learning! God bless all you in GIG and your ministry!!

    • gwen gwen says:

      Oh, girl. You are speaking my language! I have some of the best girlfriends in the whole world and I love doing life with each of them. In good times and in bad. :) We are truly blessed.

  2. Kim says:

    Today your devotional is ideal in my current situation. On January 25th my youngest son had a very serious snowboarding accident. Praise God he’s alive. It hasn’t been an easy 21days. Through the grace of God it is by his strength that I could remain calm. I needed to be strong yet I felt so weak. Through many prayers & the love & support of family/friends we were strapped together in his amazing Love. Today a family from our church delivered a meal. Wow, this means so much too us. My son is learning to walk with a cane & accomplished his 2nd goal since having surgery, walk up/dwn our staircase. Praise you in the morning & I praise you in the evening. I will learn patience , trust , deeper faith & more compassion as I travel the road of this difficult time.
    We serve an awesome God :)

  3. Kim says:

    This devotional has been a true testament of my day! Both my young adult daughters (20 and 23 years old) were having some life difficulties today. Two times I found myself sitting with each daughter at our kitchen table discussing their problems. I feel like I am blessed to be a “buddy strap” to my girls as they grow and lean into the Lord’s love for their answers to such hard times throughout their lives. Thanking the Father every single I read the GiG devotionals! Thank you for giving!!!

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